Are You Sabotaging Your Own Love Life

So you think you want to be in a relationship, yet nothing you do seems to turn out that way. When this keeps happening and there’s no visible reason for it, you may want to consider that you’re ruining things all by yourself. There are various ways that this can be done without you even seeing it.

For one thing, you always pick the wrong guy. It may be that you have Bad Boy Syndrome, which keeps you from ever choosing the right man for you. Do the guys you date all seem to treat you like something they’ve scrapped from the bottom of their shoe, yet you still stay? It may be that you give all the power in a relationship to every guy you get involved with, which means he dictates how the relationship will go. Maybe you zero in on guys that aren’t emotionally available or they just won’t commit. While these guys may be exciting, unpredictable and phenomenal in bed, they’re not going to stay with you, and you actually know that from the onset.

Another way that you’re putting obstacles in your path to true love is by staying in bad relationships too long. These are the ones where you KNOW you need to leave because you’re not getting what you deserve from it. The sad thing is that you come up with all the excuses in the world as to why you’re staying in the relationship. You tell yourself that it will get better or that he’ll change. Love doesn’t justify being unhappy. Yes, love is very important, but you need other things to make a relationship successful. Things like respect, compatibility, honor and communication are just a few. When there’s real love in a relationship, all of the rest will be there as well.

One of the biggest ways to sabotage your relationships is when you base your decisions from a place of fear. Rather than doing something because it’s what you want, you do it because you feel you MUST. You’re afraid that if you do what your intuition is telling you to do that you won’t have the relationship and life you truly want. You understand that by confronting things that upset you or make you unhappy, then you may have to make some hard decisions. So you clam up instead of speaking up. The important questions are avoided because you’re not sure you want to know the truth. That’s why you bury your head in the sand rather than acknowledging all of the warning signs around you.

The most hindering aspect of your fear is that you’re actually the one that’s afraid to commit to someone. Granted, commitment can be a rather scary thing because, after all, you’re pledging yourself to one man for the rest of your life. That’s enough to scare anyone. However, the thing to remember is that when you find the man that offers you everything you want in a relationship, you’ll be more open to putting away the fear and opening yourself to commitment.